ok kittens, we’re taking a step back from the usual barrage of sarcasm and self-deprecation to do some real-live thinking about real-live topics.
but first, may i present you with a ridiculous picture for your enjoyment:
so family is a big deal here, a way bigger deal than at home. sure, we all know the odd fam who is questionably close, stays mostly within themselves and truly enjoy each other’s company 24/7, but i feel comfortable publically stating that this is the exception and not the rule.
maybe i’m cynical. so sue me.
but in kolkata it’s a completely different story. i’ve spent a lot of time thinking about this over the last month and my conclusion is that while at home we promote a sense of individualism (spread your wings! live your life! follow the yellow brick road!) within our family units, here that just doesn’t really happen.
people feel a collective sense of duty to their parents, siblings and extended family that, while it may arguably be an obligation, is quite touching.
life in india seems to be centered around family meals, vacations and outings and i genuinely think that the people here love it. sure it’s all they may know, but that’s not the point is it.
family really matters in their lives.
i want you to know that i’m not saying all this because my family is le shit – because they’re not. (well most of them aren’t anyway. annnnd the ones who are will never read this so moving on…) but i do know that as canadians, north americans, ‘westerners’ or whatever – we don’t value family the way they do here. and i’ve decided that i think it’s a little sad.
so, while i have always tried to create strong bonds with my entire crazy fam-jamily, i am challenging myself to be better. and like me, i know you all can be better too.
remember: family matters.
well it’s pushing sunday here, so i wanted to be the first to wish my maximus – along with all the wonderful new and soon-to-be-new mothers in my life – a very happy mother’s day.