family matters.

7 May

ok kittens, we’re taking a step back from the usual barrage of sarcasm and self-deprecation to do some real-live thinking about real-live topics.

but first, may i present you with a ridiculous picture for your enjoyment:

sister and sister's consort being themselves.

so family is a big deal here, a way bigger deal than at home.  sure, we all know the odd fam who is questionably close, stays mostly within themselves and truly enjoy each other’s company 24/7, but i feel comfortable publically stating that this is the exception and not the rule.

maybe i’m cynical. so sue me.

we're pretty decent. could we be better?

but in kolkata it’s a completely different story.  i’ve spent a lot of time thinking about this over the last month and my conclusion is that while at home we promote a sense of individualism (spread your wings! live your life! follow the yellow brick road!) within our family units, here that just doesn’t really happen.

people feel a collective sense of duty to their parents, siblings and extended family that, while it may arguably be an obligation, is quite touching.

life in india seems to be centered around family meals, vacations and outings and i genuinely think that the people here love it. sure it’s all they may know, but that’s not the point is it.

family really matters in their lives.

i want you to know that i’m not saying all this because my family is le shit – because they’re not. (well most of them aren’t anyway. annnnd the ones who are will never read this so moving on…) but i do know that as canadians, north americans, ‘westerners’ or whatever – we don’t value family the way they do here.  and i’ve decided that i think it’s a little sad.

so, while i have always tried to create strong bonds with my entire crazy fam-jamily, i am challenging myself to be better.  and like me, i know you all can be better too.

remember: family matters.

well it’s pushing sunday here, so i wanted to be the first to wish my maximus – along with all the wonderful  new and soon-to-be-new mothers in my life – a very happy mother’s day.

happy mother's day, maximus.

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5 Responses to “family matters.”

  1. ica May 7, 2011 at 10:42 pm #

    Ur so romantic sister!! We love ya so so so much!! We are crazy. But in a good way. Great photo of bradford and I ! Well chosen ! Props!

  2. Barnet May 8, 2011 at 12:16 am #

    Crank it up and boogie…

  3. A.A.B. (auntie angie baby) May 8, 2011 at 12:30 am #

    You’re going to be a wonderful mother too one day, hopefully…soon..before us oldies kick off….because we want to see justice (insert picture of Al at my house at one year old). Heck, you have already become our own Erma Bombeck and who doesn’t love a mother like that. Just remember folks, all mothers really want is this:

    1. a hug from their kids
    2. an I love you from the heart
    3. and if we ever did anything at all nice for you, a thankyou as well.

    That’s it – that’s all. It doesn’t get any better than that.

    • Hannah May 8, 2011 at 12:39 am #

      AAB makes my day. You are lucky to have her in your family.

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